By Gena McCown
In a day and time where we are more connected than other digitally, our communities are responding with an increasing level of feeling alone. When we look to the scriptures we see that community was a vital aspect of the local church. Not only did they worship together, but they cared about one another on a personal level. They tended to one another and carried each other’s burdens. Communities worked together for the common good and because they were connected they were aware of what was happening in the lives those they called neighbor.
This led me to come to the very recent conclusion that we are not disconnected, we are just misconnected. Experts have suggested that the problem with social media connections is that when one feels alone in their real life, they may turn to social media to connect and feel that void, and when that feeling of isolation doesn’t go away they dig deeper into social media to create more connections. They are still seeking and looking for their tribe. On the other hand, these experts have also suggested that once we are connected virtually the fear of missing out on what is being posted/shared may chain us to our devices verses going out and living life among others.
Disconnected seems so firm and final, like someone who has gone off grid or cut themselves off from society. Disconnection happens when effort has left the equation of human relationship. We have either made the decision to disconnect with another, or we have accepted their decision to connect with us. I can’t believe a person who continually is seeking their tribe on social media outlets is seeking or accepting disconnection. Instead they are trying to connect but in a different way, for whatever reason, and thus they are misconnected. They are making connections but not the ones they need, which leaves the void they can’t fill.
What Can Women’s Ministry Do To Connect the Misconnected?
- Connect the Women to Jesus – helping our women to understand who Jesus creates a foundation of self value and worth. We connect them to Jesus through the Word which opens their eyes to a God who knows, hears, sees, and loves them… but who is also always with them. We are never alone, when we are in God.
- Connect the Women to Women in the Church – connecting women to other women who are also believers builds the foundations of community. We have identified something we share in common, our faith, and embrace our connection as sisters in Christ. As they begin to realize that they are not only walking this life with Jesus on their side but also a family of believers, the isolation will begin to dissipate.
- Connect the Women to Community – through connecting the women to our community we begin to introduce purpose into their lives. The more we connect with Jesus and our family of believers, the deeper our desire is to reach into our communities and serve others. By connecting into our community we extend our community beyond what we could ever imagine.
How Do We Connect Women to Jesus: Bible studies, small groups, conferences, guest speakers, Sunday services, women’s brunches, retreats, workshops, etc. It comes as we connect them directly to His Word via study, or as we share our testimonies via events.
How Do We Connect Women to Women in the Church: Ladies night/day out, women’s trips, retreats, brunches, fellowship events, concerts, movies, lunch dates. Whether we start building connections through high attendance events or small intimate coffee dates, we are putting the building blocks in place for relationship.
How Do We Connect Women to Community: Service projects within the church, local community, volunteering with local organizations and non-profits, local and international missions projects, etc. are all great ways to bring the women out of the church and into the community to serve. By serving others, we often get to know them on a deeper level because we are meeting them where they are at.