#LeadHer2020 is going to Sell Out!

SellOutWarningIf you have been on the fence about registering, don’t delay we are going to sell out.  There are less than 20 seats left!

Make sure you pop by the LeadHer facebook page.  There are some giveaways happening now through when the last ticket is sold.

All of the details are on the Facebook page.  You can also learn more about the event, speakers, our sponsors, feedback from previous LeadHer attendees, and so much more.

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When our plans for LeadHer 2019 were put on hold, I didn’t understand why but I trusted.  Normally, I would be freaking out about having to postpone an event.  Yet, I found peace.  While doors were shutting left and right in the planning process, there was not a point where our team felt like God was shutting it down.  We were being asked to wait.

I’m calling it our Selah pause.  God was orchestrating some things we could have never imagined, but we needed to wait for just a little while.  About two weeks ago, our team met, the topics for our meeting included LeadHer 2020.  By the time we left that table, we were unified in feeling that the Lord was calling us out of the pause and into action.

What unfolded in just over a few days was beyond anything we could have expected or done on our own.  Who God is bringing together for LeadHer 2020 could only have happened with that Selah pause.

Which brings us to the announcement…

LeadHer2020 is ON THE WAY.   More details are to come, in the next few days!

The location?  BOOKED.

Worship?  BOOKED.

Speakers?  BOOKED.

Wondering where?  Wondering who?

Just keep an eye out for more updates on #LeadHer2020!

Is it too soon to talk about this?

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Is it too early to talk about Mother’s Day brunches?  Probably not.  If you are a planner, like me, your fall calendar is running according to plan & your eyes are set on planning for spring.

If you would have talked to me about Mother’s Day brunches 15+ years ago, I would have told you that I love them and think they are a wonderful idea for a Women’s Ministry to host.  Over the years, my opinions on this have changed.

Not Everyone Is A Mother

As I have become friends with women who have either chosen to not have children, who are still waiting to have that first child, or whom have lost a child… Mother’s Day can be a difficult occasion to celebrate.  Not having a child, they often feel left out of the celebration.  They may not realize their role as a Spiritual Mother in the community of believers is more than enough to qualify them for an invite.  At the same time, when the speaker focuses on the joys of biological motherhood, it can be a hard event to sit through.  For those who have lost a child, it can be down right painful.  

Not Everyone Has a Mother

Some women are still grieving over the death of their mother.  Mother’s Day is a reminder of who is not here to celebrate with.  There are other women who may have had a biological mother, but her presence was either physically or mentally absent.  It is hard to celebrate a relationship that didn’t exist.  Also, there are women who have trauma related to their mothers and celebrating Mother’s Day is salt in the wound of the pain as they watch other mothers and daughters experiencing a joy they didn’t know.

Not Everyone Has a Daughter

Quite often Mother’s Day brunches are “Mother & Daughter” events.  If your mother lives out of town or out of state, attending an event like this with our mom may not be an option.  If you are also a mother of only sons, then you attend the event alone versus celebrating with your sons.


If we are not careful, Mother’s Day brunches can become a very exclusive event that leaves some of the women in our church feeling left out of not only celebrating with a particular holiday, but also fellowshipping with their sisters in faith.

Here are some practical ideas or ways to relook at Mother’s Day events to create a more inclusive event that welcomes all women from your church and community.

Be Intentional with your Speaker

When hiring or tasking a Speaker for your event, ask her to speak on a topic that is not necessarily applicable to only biological motherhood.  Spiritual mothering, discipling, relationships, etc.

Consider Mother & Child Events

Instead of hosting a mother & daughter event, consider offering it as a mother and child event.  Or, plan two events one for mothers & daughters and one for mothers & sons.  Planning two events in one year may be too much, but a possible solution is alternating years between the two.

Change the Name of the Event

You may choose to hold the event near or on Mother’s Day but consider calling it by another name.  A sisterhood event, women’s event, becomes a very inclusive event.  For those who choose to celebrate by inviting their mother or daughter to attend with them as part of their Mother’s Day weekend, it’s a great opportunity to do something fun together.  But, for those who struggle with Mother’s Day it becomes a fun event that doesn’t focus on motherhood but instead being a woman in Christ.  

Quite often, I share with ministry leaders the importance of making sure their leadership represents the body of the church.  We should also keep this in mind as we plan our events.  If we focus our events on ONE particular group or type of women in the body, at the exclusion of the others, then our ministry is missing the mark.

Be blessed,


Fundraising and Donations

A.K.A. :  What a Secular Radio Station Taught Me About Fundraising

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The Women’s Ministry Council is located in the Treasure Coast of Florida.  If you travel south east of us, you will land in the Bahamas.  The Bahamas have been in the news regularly since Hurricane Dorian took a slow, but devastating, stroll across their northern islands.  In some areas, little if anything stands.  Lives were lost.  Homes were lost.  And the recovery effort is going to take years.

South Floridians have a special kinship with the Bahamas.  Not only do we have locals who have come to live here from the Bahamas, but it is a popular weekend vacation spot for Floridians.  It was no surprise to any of us that when the Bahamas needed us, we were ready to give back the islands that are near and dear to our heart.

A popular radio station began an immediate effort to obtain donations of phyiscal goods to bring to the Bahamas.  Shortly after they made a decision, they were going to hold a 48 hour fundraising drive to raise $100,000.  Their morning show would run non stop for 48 hours because that is how long Hurricane Dorian hovered over the islands moving at such a slow pace that it only moved 100 miles in 2 days (100 miles = $100,000 , $1 per mile it traveled during the 48 span).

By the end of the 48 hour marathon, the radio station raised a whopping 200,000 dollars.  They not only met their goal, but knocked it out of the waters.  I was stunned.  I can’t even raise $500 on my birthday for a good cause.  I’ve watched organizations and churches try to raise funds for ministries, trips, missions, building projects, etc.  Very rarely do I see these attempts result in DOUBLE their goal, particularly when the original goal is already in the 6 digits.

Here is what I learned:

  1. This radio show has built more than just an audience, they built a community.  They are highly active and present in their community for smaller fundraising events and good causes, as well as just out right fun.  People know who they are.
  2. The people know who they are, and the radio show knows who their people are.  As they would announce donations, there would at times be little comments about who the person is and how they knew them.  It showed how the connection to the community was not one sided but mutual.  They are more like extended family.
  3. They made giving fun.  Yes, this was a tragedy for the Bahamas… and they never downplayed the devastation.  But, instead of playing on the emotions to fuel donations they instead emphasized their dedication to helping the recovery effort in a very fun way that allowed the givers to participate.   Small donations were rewarded with song requests, larger donations were rewarded with visits to the station, on air time, and even gags like giving a pie to the face.
  4. The show recognized this was a special circumstance that required a special response, and they communicated the need to their audience effectively.
  5. The show was dedicated to total transparency on how the funds would be used, and committed to long term recovery support vs. a hit and run donation drive.
  6. The team had a focused target for their recovery efforts.  By having a specific Bahamian community that they intended to build, it took a huge recovery effort and made it bite sized and made the undertaking less daunting.

Perhaps, we could learn a thing or two about our own fundraising efforts from how a secular radio station raised $200,000 in 48 hours.