The Welcome Wagon

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Once upon a time, when a person would move into a neighborhood they would be met by the Welcome Wagon.  Usually a few neighbors would whip up some dishes and pop on by to meet the new family.  The food was an olive branch, a gift to help ease the moving in process by eliminating the need to make meals for the first few days.  Eventually meals became a cake, plate of cookies, or a cute little house plant.  The sentiment was the same, the gift was merely an excuse to meet the new family and welcome them to the neighborhood.

Just as much as the family wanted to make a good impression as they moved into their new house… the neighborhood was equally as concerned with making a good impression too.  The neighbors wanted to make sure that the new residents found the neighborhood to be more than just suitable but instead an enjoyable place to live and raise a family.

As time as passed, in many areas the Welcome Wagon is a thing of history.  In the six times I can remember moving during my lifetime, I’ve never actually experienced a Welcome Wagon.  In fact, in many cases months passed before I properly met neighbors.  This includes the generation who would have grown up with Welcome Wagons and neighbors being neighborly.  That’s not to say that we haven’t gotten to know our neighbors, but it certainly wasn’t as intentional or immediate.

Times changed.

When I watch movies or television and I see a group of neighbors eagerly welcoming the new residents to the neighborhood… to be entirely honest… I feel jilted.  Like I missed out on some great opportunity of friendliness and neighborly ritual.  When I find out that it still happens in some cities, I’m in full jealousy mode.  And yet, I must admit, I’ve not made the attempt to BE THAT NEIGHBOR either.  When someone new moved in to our neighborhood… I was not baking up a tray of cookies or putting together a casserole.

In some regards, we have lost our way when it comes to hospitality.

Two years ago, on New Years Eve, something shifted.  We have a family tradition for the holiday that includes an all day food smorgasbord.  It’s all our favorite junk and snack foods, and the one time of year where we put our “healthy eating” aside and indulge.  We look forward to it each year, and there is always more food than we could ever eat.  In recent years we began inviting our friends to join us, kind of an open house.  Two years ago, we stepped outside to watch the New Years Eve fireworks and our neighbors had family visiting from out of town.  This couple had brought fireworks of their own, and seeing my kids empty handed and watching from our driveway… they extended the olive branch.  As our kids ran around with sparklers and my husband lit off a few of the bigger fireworks they gave to us… I headed in the house to bring out some food to share.  We put up a folding table and the two households laughed at our kids running around … and admired the lights in the sky.

Last summer, it was 4th of July, and a new family was in the process of moving in.  They unloaded the moving truck until it was too dark.  Instead of heading inside to start unpacking, they set out some chairs to watch the fireworks, and waited for the pizza delivery guy to show up.  My youngest noticed they had two little girls, oohing and aahing over the light show.  She asked if she could take some of our sparklers and bring them to the family.  Of course I let her, remembering the kindness of our neighbors the previous year.  The little girls ran around with those sparklers as if we had given them the best gifts in the world.

Now, we have children in the neighborhood that I spoil with little gifts and trinkets.  It brings me joy to see their driveway covered in the sidewalk chalk we gave them at the start of spring break.  A neighbor down the way had a bicycle she didn’t need any longer and walked it down, offering it to my daughter.  A subtle shift has happened in our neighborhood, where neighborly hospitality is being revived.  It’s absolutely beautiful.

Maybe you too have felt like hospitality has been waning.  The great news is that all is not lost.  At any given time, any given one of us, can make the choice to bring hospitality back into our lives, neighborhoods, cities, and churches.

  1.  Evaluate Your Hospitality –  Is there any plan for welcoming new faces?   If so, how is that plan working out?  Is it time to revamp it?  If there is not one, what could be done to start being more intentional about how we welcome new people into our lives or ministry?
  2. Employ the Spiritual Gifts of Hospitality – Find the people within your church who have the spiritual gift of hospitality.  Let them lead the charge in how we welcome guests, new members, families, etc.  
  3. Put Out the Welcome Mat – Ensure that your church, ministry, or organization is giving the impression that guests are welcome.  When someone comes knocking at the door, who is going to invite them in?  Do you have a welcome committee who can direct them on where to go, or how to find information?
  4. Seek Out the Community – Hospitality isn’t only about serving those who are knocking on our doors, but also extending an invitation to the community.  We do this by reaching out and serving in the community, outside of our church walls.  Meeting people, learning about those who live around us, and inviting them to visit.
  5. Create Comfort – Hospitality is a welcoming invitation to the stranger, a welcome mat for the visitor, and creating a safe place for the resident.  Once a guest becomes a member we need to ensure they feel as welcome and valued as they did when they first arrived.

Have a Welcome Wagon or Committee for your church, ministry, or organization.  Let them use their gifts in this area to help create, foster, and build a solid plan for making sure people feel welcome and cared for in your space.

Proverbs 31 Hospitality

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In the Proverbs 31 “Virtuous Woman” verses (10-31) we witness several examples of hospitality.

If we limit our thinking of hospitality to serving strangers, we are only recognizing a fraction of what it means to be hospitable.  One definition of the word is to be friendly and welcoming of strangers and guests.  However, the second part of the definition is an environment that is pleasant and favorable for living in.

Hospitable to Her Husband (Proverbs 31:11,12)

She has created and fostered and environment where her husband feels safe, cared for, and happy.  He has complete trust in her, and therefore can relax in her presence.

Hospitable to Her Household (Proverbs 31:14,15)

She provides good, choice foods for her household (husband, children) and this includes her servants.  She is caring for all of them, making anyone who is in her household feel welcomed and valued.

Hospitable to the Less Fortunate (Proverbs 31:20)

Whether they are needy in spirit, health, or wealth… she extends her arms out to them.  The wording implies that she seeks them out by stretching out her arms or reaching out her hands.  She doesn’t wait until they show up on her door step and ask for her help, but instead she seeks these people out.

Hospitable with Her Words (Proverbs 31:26)

The Proverbs 31 woman speaks with wisdom AND kindness.  She is not boastful or cold, but those who know her welcome what she has to say because of her reputation.  

A virtuous woman knows the value of being hospitable not only to the people who she meets in the community or in her church, but foremost to her own family.  She creates a safe landing place for her husband and children to retreat to.  She has built a reputation and a home that has an open door to those who are in need.  It is a foundation in her life that begins within the walls of her own house and then extends out into the community from there.  


The Two Sides of Hospitality

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There are two sides to hospitality that send very distinct messages.

The first side is the “Welcome”, and the message it sends a warm welcome to those we encounter.  This message ranges from making sure information about our ministry is easily accessible, invitations to the women to our events, how we encounter women directly, etc.   The welcome is warm and inviting, and it let’s the women know that we want them to be a part of our ministry and lives.

The second side of hospitality is the “Care”, and the message it sends is that we value and care about the women who are a part of our ministry and lives.   It shows up in the little details of our events, as we follow up with the women afterwards, how we plan out our events for the year, etc.  Care says that we see the women and their needs, that we value them, and that we want to ensure they enjoy our time together … so they will desire to return.

When we speak about the Hospitality Industry, we often think of hotels.  Their “welcome” message is found on their website, commercials, and even how the building looks as you drive by.  It makes you want to stay at their hotel over another.  For parents, the hotel that has a kids playground, splash pad, or mini water park is going to win out over one that does not.  Hotels know this, so their welcome actually focuses on the kids.  For the couple looking for an anniversary getaway, the hotel is going to promote quiet days relaxing at the beach or poolside, spa services, and local nightlife in walking distance.  They know WHO they are targeting and they make sure that the welcome message clearly speaks to those individuals.

Once you are at the hotel, hospitality moves into the care.  They want to make sure that you have a good time at their location because they want you to come back, and they want you to recommend the hotel to others.  Therefore, they do everything to ensure you have a great time.  I remember once walking into a family hotel, on every bed was a towel that had been shaped into a zoo animal.  My kids LOVED this.  When I planned a women’s retreat at a hotel, several years ago, I found a gift basket with all sorts of goodies left for me as a token of appreciation.  This hotel wanted to ensure they would keep our business for future events.  Little details leave a lasting impression.

In fairness, when we serve so many different women (in various walks of life) it can seem like a monumental task to try to reach each person on an individual level.  What I can tell you is that the women see the effort that you have gone to, and that speaks volumes.  It’s not always about the actual, physical and tangible, things that you do but the heart behind it.

At a women’s retreat many years ago, we were staying on a campground in bunk beds.  This was not a luxurious retreat, but more adventurous.  Every night during the final activities, we went through the bunkhouse and placed a treat bag on their pillow.   A hand made, decorated gift bag or box, that contained treats made by a volunteer, with a little gift tag with a verse.  Did we have women who were probably on diets?  Sure.  Did we have women who avoided sugar for various reasons?  Definitely.  Did we have a few women who just didn’t like chocolate?  Probably.  Even when they didn’t particularly get to enjoy the item itself, they appreciated that the team was dedicated to caring for them so well.  We wanted to make the event special, and the women to feel loved and cared for.  That goal was met.

Take Away Point:

Hospitality doesn’t end at the welcome mat.  Once you have extended the warm welcome, hospitality shifts focus on to caring for the women well.

Ministry Volunteers

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Imagine, if you will, what it would be like to not have to hunt down volunteers.

To announce a need, and immediately hands raise… sign up sheets fill up… you have more volunteers than you can even use.

What if I told you that I truly believe this can happen?  And, what if I told you that the reason it doesn’t happen is probably our own fault as leaders?

It is so easy to create a ministry that survives on the backs of those who eagerly seek us out.  The ones who come to us before we even ask, because they just know in their hearts where God has called their gifting.  It is also easy to build a ministry full of people who we know really well.  We know who has certain talents, who is dependable, and who is available.  We also know who is most likely to say yes when we ask for help.   Truth be told, those women probably make up about 10% – 20% of the women in the church.

What about the other women?  The ones who walk through the doors each Sunday, attend Bible Studies, register for women’s events… why are they not engaged?

Spiritual Gifting

The first thing we need to understand is that most likely very few of the women in the church know what their spiritual gifts are.  They may have acquired skills and talents from on the job training, education, etc.   However, those skills may not be their spiritual gifts.  These women not only don’t know what their spiritual gifts are, but they may not even understand what spiritual gifts are, how they get them, or why they get them.

As leaders of women in the church we should be encouraging all of the women in our care to explore their spiritual gifts.  There are online tests, books, and studies on this subject.  Encourage the women to identify their spiritual gifts, help them through the process if needed.

Serving The Gift

Once we have helped the women identify what their spiritual gifts are, then we need to help them find a place to engage their gift in the ministry, church, or community.  The Church Office, Ministries, Committees, and organizations are in need of people who have the gifts of Leadership, Administration.    Our Small Group, Bible Study, Sunday School, Children’s Church, and events are in need of people who have the spiritual gifts of Teaching, Shepherding.  As we plan events we need women who have the gift of Hospitality, Serving, Prayer.

These gifts may intersect with acquired skills, and some people have more than one dominant gift.   As we help the women identify their gifts, we then can find a place where that gift be used.

Train the Gift

We can not assume that just because a person’s gift has been identified that we can just send the woman off to serve without guidance.  She may feel insecure, and need support.  There may be technical training needed.  A woman may have a gift for teaching, but yet lack maturity in faith to send her off to teach a 20 week study on Revelation all on her own.  It is our job as leaders to not only identify the gift and where that gift can be used, but to also mentor and foster the development of that gift.  We must be careful not to exploit the gifts of others, we are to be encouragers.

The Women Are Many

Statistically we know that the average church has a membership that is comprised of 60-75% women.  That is a large number of women to walk through this process.  The good news is that we are not alone.

  1.  Start with a single group of women at a time.  There is no need to boil the ocean all at one time.   If you are a ministry team of one, start with 4 or 5 women.  You may begin to identify other leaders who could help you as move forward.
  2. Divide the load.  If you have a team of several women, start by Spiritual Gifts testing the team.  Once you have their gifts clearly identified, you can pair them up with women from the church that share a similar gifting.  Let the team member who is gifted in Hospitality mentor the women who had test results that indicated Hospitality.
  3. There is no need to rush.  Identifying the gift using a Spiritual Gifts Test doesn’t take much time at all.  Coming up with a list of places in the church or community that could benefit from the list might be easy too.  However the process of fostering and developing that gift will vary from woman to woman.

If we set a goal to include Spiritual Gifts testing, engagement, and equipping as part of our ministry discipleship plan… we should never be at a need for volunteers.  We shouldn’t have to chase people down, clipboards in hand, in the church lobby.  Nor will we need to call in favors or put the already taxed few on the spot.  We will be creating an environment within the church that recognizes that every member has a role in the body.

1 Corinthians 12:12-27

Unity and Diversity in the Body

12 Just as a body, though one, has many parts, but all its many parts form one body, so it is with Christ. 13 For we were all baptized by[a] one Spirit so as to form one body—whether Jews or Gentiles, slave or free—and we were all given the one Spirit to drink. 14 Even so the body is not made up of one part but of many.

15 Now if the foot should say, “Because I am not a hand, I do not belong to the body,” it would not for that reason stop being part of the body. 16 And if the ear should say, “Because I am not an eye, I do not belong to the body,” it would not for that reason stop being part of the body. 17 If the whole body were an eye, where would the sense of hearing be? If the whole body were an ear, where would the sense of smell be? 18 But in fact God has placed the parts in the body, every one of them, just as he wanted them to be. 19 If they were all one part, where would the body be? 20 As it is, there are many parts, but one body.

21 The eye cannot say to the hand, “I don’t need you!” And the head cannot say to the feet, “I don’t need you!” 22 On the contrary, those parts of the body that seem to be weaker are indispensable, 23 and the parts that we think are less honorable we treat with special honor. And the parts that are unpresentable are treated with special modesty, 24 while our presentable parts need no special treatment. But God has put the body together, giving greater honor to the parts that lacked it, 25 so that there should be no division in the body, but that its parts should have equal concern for each other. 26 If one part suffers, every part suffers with it; if one part is honored, every part rejoices with it.

27 Now you are the body of Christ, and each one of you is a part of it.

I love verse 18:

 “But in fact God has placed the parts in the body, every one of them, just as he wanted them to be.”

If God places people in the church body, every one of them, is just as God wanted them to be.  An active part of the body, fulfilling it’s purpose.

When a body part goes unused it atrophies, which means it withers, shrinks, wastes away… it is no longer effective.

What happens to the parts of our church bodies that go unused?

Perhaps if we engaged those parts, strengthened them… the whole body would grow stronger.

March Leadership Calendar


We are so excited to start sharing our Monthly Leadership Calendar!  Starting in April, this will be posted one week prior to the beginning of the month.  Use for yourself, share with your team.

An Acts 2 Ministry ….

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Over the last few weeks we dove into Acts 2 to learn what an Acts 2 Church is, and then we applied that information to the ministries within the church.  What does an Acts 2 Ministry look like?  Five main points were:

  1.  An Acts 2 Ministry is Consistent.  It meets regularly, in expected ways, in order to establish new habits that will replace the old.  It isn’t about creating a full calendar to make a ministry look big or successful, but rather about creating a full calendar that our members or those we serve can be intentional about carving time in their schedule to be in community with fellow believers.  It also provides regular opportunities to invite others.
  2. An Acts 2 Ministry is a Teaching Ministry.  This ministry teaches the women how to transform their minds to think to God’s ways first.  Whether it be a devotional at the beginning of a fellowship event, Bible Studies, workshops, conferences, etc.
  3. An Acts 2 Ministry Fellowships with One Another.  An Acts 2 Ministry isn’t about quick, once a week/month, check ins with each other.  It is about building community, binding us to one another in deep connections, and walking through life with one another.  The lone sheep is far more vulnerable to attack than the ones packed into a tight flock, under a Good Shepherd.
  4. An Acts 2 Ministry is a Praying Ministry.  From the leadership down, an Acts 2 Ministry is united in prayer.  As fellowship connects our lives, prayers allow us to worship God with each other.  As we pray in thanksgiving for His blessings, as we cry out for His intervention, and when we stand in the gap… praying for those who have lost the words in their grief; prayer connects us to God and each other in a very personal way.
  5. An Acts 2 Ministry Worships Together.  Not only by lifting our voices in song, but in our obedience, our prayers, our teaching, our fellowship… we are worshipping God together.

Something that stood out, as each point was developed, was this final component…

An Acts 2 Ministry is Led by Example.  

Each of the five points begins with the leaders setting the example and the expectation.

Our leadership must be consistent.  We can’t have a revolving door of leaders who try to reinvent our ministries every year.  Leaders must also be meeting regularly to discuss the progress of the ministry, make plans, and keep each other focused and accountable on God’s purpose for the ministry.  Leaders must be in consistent alignment with the church they serve under, and most importantly with God’s Word.

Our leaders should be open to teaching.  Either by teaching others, or a willingness to be students; sometimes both.  Not everyone is called to teach the Word of God in front of a large classroom or small group.  However, the Great Commission calls us to go out and make disciples and teach them.  Every leader should have the ability to share the Word, whether it be in one on one conversations, participating or leading in small groups, or larger events/workshops.  Some will be gifted to teach formal theology and some will be gifted to teach by example of living a Christ filled life.

Our leaders should be fellowshipping, with those they serve and with one another.  The Disciples spent a lot of time with Jesus, but also with each other.  In their fellowshipping, they were able to teach one another, rebuke one another, hold each other accountable.  They loved each other like brothers, and even in their disputes reconciled.  We set the example for Christian fellowship for others.

Our leaders should be praying.  In our own personal lives, whether it is audible prayers or prayer journaling… again we are setting the expectation and the example.  If this is an area where we lack confidence, we still set an example as we seek out ways to improve our prayer life & share with others how we have grown.

Finally, our leaders should ever be in a posture of worship.  Others will watch how leaders respond when times are good, and even more so when times are difficult.  I remember once going through a difficult time, and I had to make some hard decisions.  A few days later, I was speaking with a friend who was aware of the situation, and she made a comment about seeing me at church that Sunday.  She said that I walked as if a load had been lifted off my shoulders.  She was trying to understand how in the midst of this chaos I seemed so unburdened by it.   She saw something I didn’t even realize was apparent, and this created a beautiful opportunity to talk about faith and trust.. even in the trials and the storms.

Leaders, you are the tone… lead by examples… and set the expectations for those whom you are in charge.  Lead well.

An Acts 2 Ministry Will Worship Together


For most of us, we would define worshipping together with fellow believers as coming together and singing songs that praise God and honor Him.   I’m a big fan of including a short Worship session as part of a Women’s Ministry Brunch, or tying in Worship into the schedule for a conference.

There are other ways we can worship God.  We can encourage these as individual habits, as well as corporately as a ministry.

  1.  Prayer.  Prayer is a very active form of worship.  We worship God through our prayer and supplication, as we confess and repent, thank and praise, and even when we put our trust in Him with our petitions.  Individually we set an example for others as we pray and share how God has responded to our prayers.  As leaders, we can teach others how to pray and encourage them to challenge their prayer life to new heights.  Corporately, we can pray as an assembly of believers.
  2.  The Bible.  We honor and worship God as we get to know Him through His Word.  To know God is to love Him, trust Him, and glorify Him.  We make time to commune with God through His Word, it is an act of worship.  Individually, we set the example of the value and importance of regular time reading and studying.  As leaders, we step into the role of teacher and shepherd.  Corporately, we create avenues where the women can learn how to study the Bible for themselves and groups where they grow and challenge one another.
  3. Obedience.  If we are praying and committing to be in the Word, we can’t avoid His truths and His direction.  To worship God fully, we must also be in obedience to His call on our life and His commands.  Individually, we must set the standard of obedience… but I believe we also need to show how to respond when we recognize that we’ve been out of obedience.  Leading the women to do the same, and being obedient in His direction for the ministry.  Remember, this is HIS ministry not ours.
  4. Fellowship.  Hebrews tells us that we must not forget to meet with one another, it is important that we are not just having a potluck with our sisters in Christ ever other month.  We need to build deep relationships, getting to know others and challenging each other to become more deeply rooted.   Individually, this means that we are careful to not isolate our selves from the body but to embrace them; with healthy boundaries of course.  As Leaders, we must find the balance between our prayer and study offerings and opportunities to fellowship and have fun with one another.
  5. Service.  We worship God when we serve His people, the ones He knows by name… the least of these.  We worship God when we serve those who do not know Him, because we may be seed planters.  Individually, we need to be modeling service and missions.  As Leaders, we can plan projects or partner up with ministries and organizations to create service opportunities.  Corporately, not only can we serve in the capacities together but we can also help the women discover their spiritual gifts and then plug them into serving the church/community with those gifts.

These are just a few ways that we can worship God, as an Acts 2 Ministry.