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The Women’s Ministry Council desires to connect our ministry leaders with opportunities to better serve their church and community of women. Among our communities are a tender group of young women who find themselves in an unexpected pregnancy. Some will be fortunate to have a family that will walk alongside them, but for many others it can be a very lonely journey. We believe the church can be doing a better job ministering to the hearts of our single mothers. This is why we are fans of the ministry Embrace Grace.
We encourage you to watch through these videos, visit the Embrace Grace website, and then prayerfully consider if this is an ministry that your church or Women’s Ministry can provide in your community. If the Lord is leading you to Embrace Grace and embrace these young fragile mothers, you can request more information on starting a group via their site.
Team Series: The 2nd in Command by Gena McCown
One of the first tasks any good leader should do is to find, appoint, equip, and build up second in command. A President has a Vice President, executives have junior executives, even Pastors have Associate Pastors or Elders they can call on. Why is this an important role to fill on your ministry team?
What if the Lord removed you from your Women’s Ministry right this second? What would happen?
A family emergency takes you unexpectedly out of town. One of your children become hospitalized. Your spouse gets reassigned and you have to move this weekend. You are threatened with a health crisis of your own.
Any number of things can happen that will unexpectedly pull us away from our ministry work, sometimes it is temporary and other times it is not. Could your team function in your absence? I’ve always felt the mark of a good leader is that their absence is not noticed.
I have been on a team where this happened, and we were left scrambling. It wasn’t that she was a bad leader, in many ways she was a great leader. However, she had never taken any one under her wing to serve as a second in command. When she left, we had a lot of plans on the calendars but none of us knew all the background info that she had been working on. There we many decisions that needed to be made and a weight of uncertainty in the air. Had there been someone working directly under her, who had knowledge of these details… it would have been a much easier process.
There are primary two ways you can work with a second in command, the first is similar to a hierarchy structure. This leader in training is kept up to date with the details of the ministry, but doesn’t have any more power than other members of the team. You will walk them through the ropes of running the ministry, but you hold all executive power in the final decision making. Their purpose is to be ready to take over the reigns of the ministry, should the time come.
The second way is as a Co-Leader, this woman will have a bit more power/pull/weight to her opinion than other team members. She may not have the ultimate say when it comes to the ministry decisions, but her opinion carries greater influence. Her role is to slip in and out of leading the group as needed. This is the woman who can fill in while the leader is on vacation, or take over for a matter of few months when a leader is going through a crisis. In a large ministry, you may even have more than 1 co-leader and even give them particular team members that they oversee.
In both cases the Women’s Ministry Leader is responsible for developing these future leaders to take over her job. However in the case of a Leader in Training, this is your ace in your back pocket that you bring out only when you need to. Whereas a Co-Leader has a far more active role in the ongoing ministry work.
A Second in Command Leader Should:
What She Should Know:
In the past, Women’s Ministry Leaders have created binders full of important ministry information that could be passed like a baton to incoming leaders. Now, we can share documents online via google documents (if you have a gmail account). This helps leaders stay connected, work and update tasks between meetings, etc. If you are interested in starting a Women’s Ministry Binder… check out Pinterest for GREAT suggestions, printable worksheets, and more.
I love to see these developing leaders active versus people I siphon information into. So, intermittently as part of training, allow her to completely lead a meeting from start to finish. You can work her up to this by giving her small responsibilities and increasing them over time. Give her a larger task to oversee, like planning a brunch or finding new small group leaders. See if she has a passion for something to add into the ministry that you can put her at the helm, like a prayer ministry or mentoring program.
While it is great to have a second in command who has a similar ministry vision as you, it’s also great to bring someone along side you that has new ideas to bring to the table. You may wish to strategically develop a younger woman, select a woman who is transitioning out of another ministry leadership role (previous MOPS Leaders are great for future Women’s Ministry Leaders), or you could find someone that just has a HUGE heart for women. While experience isn’t necessary, their level of experience will determine how much time you need to spend developing their skills.
We can predict when a changing of the guard is going to happen, but when it is within our ability we should make sure this woman is fully ready to assume command of the ministry before we retire or voluntarily step down. You can begin by steadily increasing her leadership, while culling your leadership back. This also makes for an easier transition for your team members who have served loyally with you over the past years. Give your team members advanced notice that you are planning to step down in a few months and that you are transitioning the new leader into place. When they come to you with questions or concerns funnel them toward the new leader instead of dealing with it yourself. You are not only training a new leader, but the team to trust her leadership.
If you plan on still serving with the Women’s Ministry after stepping down form leadership, I recommend taking a few months off. Allow the women to get accustomed to serving under the new leadership, and then ease yourself back in. Leaders leave a legacy even when they don’t intend to, and it can take time for members to adjust to a different leadership style and new ideas. Change is hard, even in ministry service.
I’ve always loved the hands in group huddle. I believe what is most appealing about this type of encouragement is how no one person stands at the center. Hands from every direction reach into the center, combining together to create a woven tapestry of people working together to accomplish a task.
Our lives as Christians are not meant to be lived alone, in solitude. The Lord calls us into fellowship with our family of believers.
Leadership is not meant to be lonely either. Jesus had his twelve. The apostles traveled in groups, sometimes with one another or at minimum among their supporters. They relied on one another to discuss the matters of faith. When a lot of mixed messages were being sent out, they convened at the Council of Jerusalem in order to set things straight.
I would dig even deeper to point out that the twelve who followed Jesus were not mirrors of Christ, nor each other. Each person had a different history and story to tell. They had different personalities and roles to play in the every day work of the ministry. We too, as leaders, need people who fulfill different roles in our inner circle.
We need a mentor, and we need someone we can teach. We need an encourage, as much as we need the skeptic in our lives. We need someone with wisdom and discernment, as well as someone who has the gift of prayer. We need those who will walk along side us, willing to disagree with us, willing to discuss difficult matters with us.
And, as we build our Women’s Ministry teams… we should seek these same types of people to fulfill those roles. We can’t have a team made up only those who encourage. We need people who have passion for teaching and hospitality. We need people who heed the call to pray for the church, the ministry, and the community. Women who are fiscally gifted as just as important as they are good stewards with the ministry budget.
Over the next few weeks we are going to explore some of the roles of our leadership teams. What is the role? Why is it important? What does the Bible say about it? And, how do we find a person to fill that role?
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This month, across the country and in many parts of the word, mothers of presechoolers are gathering at local churches for fellowship, support, encouragement, resources, and relationships. An exciting facet is that Jesus is always invited too.
When my husband and I relocated to a new city, over an hour away, we didn’t know a single person here. At that time we had an 8 year old and a 4 year old… however within just a few months I found out our third was on the way. We were still trying to find a church home, our neighborhood didn’t have any other families with young children, and I was so very alone. My first thoughts were: “I need to find a MOPS group”.
I was already familiar with MOPS from my previous city and I knew that finding a local group would be a great way for me to meet people in my community that were in the same stage of life. I also knew that MOPS groups were made up of women from various churches, which gave me an opportunity to be a part of a group while we were still searching for our home church. For me, MOPS was a way to plug into community.
Over the last 17 years, I have watched women come to MOPS for many reasons. What I also saw was how much MOPS became an avenue that led women and their families into the church. MOPS Moms would sign their kids up for VBS. The next year they were signing up as VBS volunteers. They would trickle into family or kids events at the church, and then you would begin to see them at church on Sunday mornings.
There were some moms who ended up staying in our MOPS group, but their families would attend a church closer to their home. Some would even start MOPS groups in their new church home. MOPS is a blessing to both the mothers who are served and the churches in which they become part of the community.
Many communities, like our own, have MOPS groups with waiting lists because they’ve reached maximum capacity. MOPS is one of those ministries, that in my opinion, you simply can’t have enough of. Staring a MOPS group is an easy process that begins with the desire to serve our mothers with preschool aged children.
If you are interested in starting up a MOPS group in your church and community, visit their website or speak with another local MOPS leader.
On a Saturday morning, when your women’s ministry gathers to serve… who are you serving? Is it the women of your church? Their friends, family, and coworkers whom they invited to share in the day. Or, are your tables filled with unfamiliar faces? Faces that wear the marks of pain, struggle, loneliness, and longing for something they can’t put their finger on.
On a Saturday morning, when your women’s ministry gathers to serve… where are you serving? In the comfort of your sanctuary, singing praise music, taking an offering, listening to a speaker? Are you in the banquet area of your church, detailed centerpieces, a spread of homemade foods to feed an army, watching a bible study video, and having table discussions? Or, are you out being the hands and the feet to those who are living on the streets, struggling to pay their bills, pulling weeds, painting houses, reading to the blind, shopping for the invalid, and serving the “least of these”?
Let me assure you that there is absolutely nothing wrong with serving the women of our church. The women in our churches need encouragement, accountability, opportunities for growth, mentorship, and in their times of need we have a responsibility to minister to those needs. However, this can not be the extent of how we serve our community. We need to be willing to step out of our comfort zones and church walls.
When we serve the community, we serve like Christ. When we serve those who are overlooked or outcasts, we serve like Christ. When we serve others who serve, we serve like Christ. Look to your community and ask yourself… if I was looking for Christ, where would I find him? Who would He be talking to, who would He be serving. Then go, and serve. I guarantee that He is serving along side you… as you serve the body, He touches their spirit.
What are some tangible ideas for serving your community?
These are just a few ideas on what you can do in your community to let them know they are seen, known, and cared for. Just close your eyes and pray… “Lord, give me your eyes to see the needs. Give me courage to step out of my comfort zone in order to serve those whom you love. Point me in the direction in which you want me to go. Here I am Lord, send me. Amen.”
It’s back to school season! Women’s Ministry groups around the country are full of mothers who are navigating the waters of back to school.
Some are watching their children enter their school years for the first time, tear soaked tissues in hand.
Others are wrapping their heads around new teachers, dress codes, schedules, and shopping.
Then there are those who have their hands on a whole box of tissues as their children enter their senior years or head off to college.
How can we minister to our mothers?